“I Wish I could make people realize what they have is better than
what they want ... and the world would be a better place..."
Extending on the last part of the "The Bubble of
illusion" .We talk today about the characteristics of being.
The characteristics of being are driven by factors.
These factors influence, motivate & change the way of one’s behavior.
5 things that makes this happen are,
1. What you think others think of you
2. What you think of others
3. What you think of yourself
4. Local Emotions
5. Past References
These more or less, cover all the variables that cause a change to
your characteristics of being.
What you think of others?
All you have been doing all this time is recollecting all the bad
memories with this person. What we tend to do, is recollect parts of the story.
The story that we make up of some fact that happened in our past.
Some instance happened long back, and you remember this
one part of it that makes your hold more strong against the person you are trying
very hard to dislike.
Now, once you get something against this person. All the instances
of the past would be filtered in a way for you to think in this negative
direction for this person. Those thoughts were never there in your head, but as
you have now made an image of this person to be bad, you will filter all the
good out and automatically characterize yourself to behave in a
certain way and expect something to always happen in the way you have thought
it. (The negative way)
The realization here is that, it’s not important that you view a
bad image but to have enough good memories and to train yourself to bring them
back to you in order to at least stay neutral and not judgmental.
"You have already made the choice, you are just
doing it to learn why you choose it in the first place" - The Matrix
revolution.
What you think others think of you?
Almost everyone thinks something about someone, and we are always
worried about it. More than half our lives go waste, living for what we
are supposed to do in order to be a part, be accepted, and be normal. There is
fakeness/pretence in the way we look at what people/someone might think of
us.
Humans exist to make meaning, do this we make meaning out of
everything. We always try to find the pattern, which is ok!!! But, when there
is no pattern and we still make a false judgment and live by it for most of our
lives, called FALSE Belief.
This Belief is not what others think of you, cause that’s there
own stupid problem. The problem is what you think, others think of you. I have
seen people, who sometimes think too highly of themselves, when the world
thinks otherwise.Atleast, these people are very happy, because they have the
wrong perception. This works wonders for them & you would always
find someone like this, who is doing better than you.
It’s wonderful to live in this optimism. The other way round does
not work. Be it anything, not coming out and expressing love,
feelings, hatred, observation & thought for the simple heck of being
judged is what is going to make you, go all the way down to the wire of being
not satisfied.
Never being able to do something, because someone else thinks it’s
right, wrong, inappropriate or disgraceful is a problem that will
stay with you forever. It’s not something that will grow out with experience,
because it’s a problem of attitude and not thought, and it’s only inside your
head.
"The only person you’re accountable too, is the one you see
in the mirror every morning"
So, go ahead and stop worrying about the way you are being thought
off, cause that will never stop. You can never do everything right and no one
truly cares,
And,
They all have to think about what others are thinking of them!!
:)
What you think of yourself?
Have you come across someone, who says,"I know I am
aggressive? Well!! That’s the way I am”
That person is you.
Another problem of this modern world is self image. Everyone has a
certain image of themselves in mind. These images of one self drive a lot of
characteristics of being. You already have a certain image of your good
points and bad points, and you like to believe them. If someone is telling you
something else, they are hurting your belief and you don’t like that.
If you think you are a Kamina, and people call you that you are ok
with it.
If you don’t think of yourself as a ghot, and someone calls you
that, you are bewildered. (How the hell!!)
Possibly true, isn’t it!!
We all have a thought telling us, what we really think of
ourselves. This enhances our mind to act like that, and behave in a certain
manner so as to be true to this one's image. This leads to one doing a lot of
things, they would certainly not have, only to prove to one that they have
these traits.
Again, thinking well about you, being positive about it has no
harm. But, the other side of the coin is what really makes people go crazy.
People end up doing a lot of stuff, getting into relationships, and smoking,
wear odd clothes, and hamper a peaceful environment, because they tell
themselves that are their characteristics. But, the truth is not that.
This FALSE PERSONALITY.
This need arises by seeing someone of this trait; get something
that you have always wished for. Its comes out of the need to achieve, need to
revolt, need to please someone or cheat yourself with the truth.
"More than the action, the motive behind
it truly classifies a MAN"
Local Emotions
One is never able to truly understand how humans feel &
express their nature. Emotions are the measure of how we feel. Good, bad, Happy
Sad, etc. etc
What we do is- we react to everything around us. To jokes on us,
at us, at someone and everything else as a matter of fact. With the three
explanations provided above, we see how we react in situations and they are
more or less similar.
Local emotions, is a reaction that comes out in moments of fights,
joy, and grave situations etc.To put in easier terms of understanding, Local
emotions are expressions we choose to represent our feelings in moments of
thought free response. Something very similar to ours, spinal
cord. Here, the processing is not available and it’s a spontaneous.
These spontaneous reactions, through emotions also have the
ability to make us alter our characteristic of being, in a splash of a second.
Because the registration of the reaction is new, and not calculated or pretence
and can have a leading impact in memory, about someone or something.
"Don't look at life through moments, see each moment as a
flash of life and then you will truly live"
These emotions, can work both ways and there is nothing much
can be done about their impact, after all we are humans. The effect of the
thoughts created due to these new expressions in the memory, can be discharged
similar to capacitors over a period of time.
Past References
How often has it happened, that you see someone!! You see someone;
they resemble someone you have already interacted with. This places a very
important role, for the first time you interact with this person.
What we do, is instantaneously refer to the similar
person from our past and already create a mental image of how this person is
going to behave with us.
This leads to either being too friendly, or showing a cold
shoulder to the person. We judge the person, even before that person has spoken
the first word. Now, that he/she is characterized into someone,
someplace, and everything he /she say takes your mind in that direction and
with the filters up. You classify the statements made by him/her, the way you
want and wow!! They both seem so similar.
This trait could lead to a lot of difficult realizations in
future and then would characterize your mind into something totally opposite of
what it is. You might sway from one thought to another about the person, but
never be able to really know them. And it is always your choice, and not the
one who you are judging.
"Don't let your past, live in your present ...it will ruin
your future" - Bill Gates
